Courtship over dating
During the Victorian Era (1837-1901), romantic love became viewed as the primary requirement for marriage and courting became even more formal — almost an art form among the upper classes.
An interested gentleman could not simply walk up to a young lady and begin a conversation.
Webster’s states that courting is “to engage in social activities leading to engagement and marriage.” Most would reply, “But isn’t that dating? Courting is a separate but important and intricate part of the process pointing toward and leading to marriage.
Even after being introduced, it was still some time before it was considered appropriate for a man to speak to a lady or for a couple to be seen together.
Once they had been formally introduced, if the gentleman wished to escort the lady home he would present his card to her.
Is it really “the people” who have devised the institution of marriage?
Should “the people” decide who and what constitutes a marriage?Many simply slip or tumble into dating situations, seemingly not caring how this happens, or even consider in order to successfully date—and be able to eventually move on to the more serious courtship and pursuit of marriage.