Dating again after 50
Now, more than 85 first dates later, Emas brings us Back on Top: Fearless Dating After Divorce.In conjunction with the release of Back on Top, Emas is sharing a few of her secrets on dating after divorce.Dating again after divorce may seem a little overwhelming, especially if you've been out of the scene for a while. Atlanta-based author Ginger Emas thought getting married meant that she'd never have to go on another first date again. Now that you're single again, these tips will help you get prepared for going out on that first date with a new man.Either set your cell phone to ring an hour after the date starts, or ask a friend to call.Do not linger, and do not make excuses; just politely remind your date that you have to leave—even if you are having a great time (maybe especially if you’re having a great time.) Leave him wanting more. Jeans are perfect for just about any first-date venue: dinner, dancing, a cup of coffee, a glass of wine, or even an unexpected breakfast.Return to the top of Dating Again After Divorce Author: Ginger Emas Ginger Emas is an independent writer, marketing manager, blogger, and an actual real-life cougar (see Chapter 20 of Back on Top).Packed with lots of practical tips and sprinkled with a comical understanding of what dating again is really like, "Back on Top" delivers hilarious dating misadventures, loving advice, and tips to help save women from many dating disasters.
You should also resist the urge to trash the institution of marriage as well as declare that you are looking to get married (unless your goal is to ensure that you don’t get asked for a second date.) If you start dating again because you think that you should, or that this is your one last chance, dating really will be a disaster. You don’t want to be dating for security or to meet some societal standard of couple-hood.
Or better yet, they sit in the comfort of their own home, surf the web, and hunt you through your status updates and Facebook photos you get tagged in. Yes, that was us in the Dominican, frolicking on the beach. While I’d like to believe the best in everyone, that they are merely looking out for me, I am not so naive.
I am waiting for the proverbial poop to hit the fan. They can simply spy through the blinds across the street or stalk her house at all hours of the night pretending they were “just stopping by to say hi”.
So for all of you aching to know and just too , scared to ask, I will now attempt to answer all those taboo questions with as much honesty as I can muster. Like many widows out there, I was out of the dating game for a long, long time. I bypassed the entire “dating” phase of life and essentially went straight from high school to married so learning to cope with members of the opposite sex in a dating situation was beyond my comprehension at first.
In an effort to save everyone the trouble (not to mention the awkward moments when I bust you peering through my kitchen window at the back of my house), I’ve decided to put it all out there for everyone to see. I do know, however, that the gossips will gossip and that while I am a grown woman who answers only to me, it is sometimes less work to be blunt.The main thing to remember about post-divorce dating is that it is just dating. It’s not dating-to-avoid-being-alone or dating-to-complete-yourself. On the other hand, you don’t have to date just because your aunt wants to fix you up, or just because some guy asked you out, or because your friends/family/coworkers think you should.