Sending first email online dating
I can tell you right now "Hi there, how are you" is going to get you absolutely nowhere.
To get a response you must be engaged and ask a question that makes the woman think.
Yes I know this can be time consuming, which is why I suggest to guys that they should go for quality of potential matches rather than quantity.
their personalities and social skills) in exchange for the convenience and comfort of not having to be nervous approaching girls because they're safe behind their keyboards.
The answers are always so short and feel rushed which alwayss makes it feel like you have to lead or the convo will end quickly. If you do you'll be one in a billion more messages that is referencing how she looks. Find a single thing to talk about, either in the body of their profile or in one of their pictures. Then end with an invitation to get coffee some time. " This gives me something to respond to an a potential conversation and also shows you took the time to read my profile as opposed to a stock message you send to everyone.
Write an open ended statement about something you relate written in their profile and ask a question about that or something else that stands out to you. Don't make it any longer than a few shorts sentences. That is nice in theory, but in practice the response rate from women even on well crafted messages that reference something specific in their profile is pretty low.
Thanks for the tip on the 3-1 ratio of questioning.
I avoided this at first to steer clear of the "interview" tactic but I guess online is a different ball game.But be careful that you don't bring them up in casual conversation or you will again risk looking desperate and weird.