Stage of dating and relationship
She acknowledges it can be hard to bring up in a formal way, but encourages people to "be brave"."There is a way to just say, ' I don't need to rush at this.
I just want to know if I'm reading this the same way you are'," she says."There is a risk you won't hear what you want to hear, but going along with a relationship feeling stressed is worse."Ms Shaw says a "sensible answer" might be: "I'm really happy with how things are going but I can't say I'm in love yet" or "I'm really enjoying our company and want to see where this is going"."But if it's more along the lines of, ' I really like you but want to leave my options open', then …
but when someone doesn't know how the future will pan out, that is where commitment phobia comes in."Former "commitment-phobe" Jessica Goh says for years she couldn't work out why her relationships would only last a matter of months at best.Relationships Australia psychologist Elisabeth Shaw says it's common for people to be at different stages in a relationship."How old you are, what your past experiences have been, and what your goals are for your life are going to hugely impact how you approach and read a relationship," she says.Psychologist Zac Seidler from the University of Sydney agrees, saying "there are so many individual differences based on the way people have come to understand what relationships look like thanks to their parents" and other influences.You've been dating for a while, but the question remains — is this relationship going anywhere?
Perhaps you're still waiting for your love interest to share a photo of you on Instagram, invite you over to their place, or introduce you to their parents.But of course, when we fell in love we couldn’t yet see all of our partner’s flaws.